Successful Women Do Not Fall in Love

Thought catalog had a nice piece this week called "Successful women do not fall in love" It was a blog by a women who makes the point that women are not capable of getting married and growing their careers in the capacity that they would if they refused to become a wife. She has several funny and provoking moments. She draws out the idea that for women getting married is taking on a second shift of duties and caring for another human being where as men benefit from the status and other benefits.
"Because, when men fall in love, they get a wife. When women fall in love they get a husband. Despite idealism, the reality of these two paths is very disparate. For men, falling in love is an asset, for women it is a sentence to hard labor. I have no interest in marrying a woman, but I would love to have a wife. They cook and clean for you, remind you when it’s your mother’s birthday, and shoulder all the biggest burdens when it comes to raising kids. Hell, my ideal relationship would be if my husband and I could have a wife so we could both be supported without having to deal with all that minutiae ourselves."

Now I didn't know if I was on board at this point. It seems like with work there are couples that do make a fairly equitable division of labor with in the home. But after thinking about it, I was sold by the "remembering your mother's birthday". Even if you have a very progressive house hold there is still the idea that no matter what women are supposed to be more thoughtful and on it when remembering all the little details. I feel like there are many tiny details like that which would take up more and more energy when in a relationship like this. It truly does come down to a supporting kind of role. 

"I don’t mean stating my personal preference to be an insult, but it’s not the truth they relay during any other conversation about their relationship, even if they don’t use those words. We’re kind of brainwashed to take care of other people, and make them happy and for me, being single is kind of an armor guarding against whatever cultural or biological intuitions are telling me, as a woman, to be self-sacrificial."

So here she really sold me because she totally brought it around to the idea that women are trained to be married martyrs and find joy in it. I'm not saying that married women cannot find joy and success in the work field, but I totally agree that the time and energy that it takes to grow and establish yourself in a career cannot be undertaken when you are babysitting another human being. 
http://thoughtcatalog.com/amy-glass/2013/12/successful-women-do-not-fall-in-love/